Let's face it, most of us didn't have comprehensive sex education growing up and a lot of what we know (or what we think we know) about sex comes from entertainment media, pornography, or otherwise unreliable sources. There are a lot of myths out there about sexuality that can be misleading or confusing. Fear not! Some of the wonderful Wellness Experts at Enchantasys have teamed up to bust 5 sex myths that you might have heard before.

Myth #1: An orgasm is the most important part of sex

Toni: I like to think of sex as a bit of a road trip. There are so many amazing sights and sensations along the way. Focusing on the climax or orgasm can distract you from enjoying the experience. The experience is what actually leads to the climax. I say, "forget about the final destination and enjoy the ride." It's the best part! Are you looking to intensify the journey? Try adding tickle feathers, massage oil, or a vibe for an extra long "road trip!"

Myth #2: Erectile dysfunction is a death sentence for your sex life

Jade: Just because someone is experiencing erectile dysfunctions does not mean that their sex life is over. There are a number of factors why someone might be experiencing erectile dysfunction. Some people have a hard time simply getting an erection, but once they get one, it's able to be maintained. Other people can get an erection, but they can't seem to maintain it. For those instances, options like penis pumps can help create an erection and cock rings can keep the blood trapped in the penis so that even after ejaculation has occurred, an erection can still be maintained.

Past that, sex shouldn't be limited to just penile penetration. Other types of play such as finger play, oral play, and partner play involving sex toys are all on the table, thus allowing someone to still experience the thrill of satisfying your partner.

For those who are experiencing the dread of thinking that they might not be able to experience an orgasm without their penis operating at full capacity, I am excited to say there are a number of toys on the market targeted towards enabling climax of a flaccid penis. Two note-worthy brands would be Arcwave and Hot Octopuss. A much easier option is to try other types of stimulation like anal and prostate play. For those who want the experience of penetrating their partner even with erectile difficulties, the use of a hollow strap-on or simply a hand held dildo can still fulfill that desire.

Myth #3: You shouldn't need lube for vaginal penetration

Becca: Vaginal dryness is experienced by many vulva owners for a variety of different reasons. It can be caused by stress, medication, dehydration, menopause, childbirth, certain medical conditions, and it affects people of any age. Lubricants are a great ally in the bedroom, creating a more comfortable and enjoyable experience and preventing any microtears or other injuries.

Even people not experiencing vaginal dryness can benefit from using lube! Studies show the use of lubricants during physical intimacy may increase your chances of reaching orgasm by up to 50%, because it allows for less friction and increased sensation and arousal. There are also great options for stimulating lubes that provide pleasant warming, cooling or tingling sensations to increase excitement and stimulation.

Myth #4: Having a lot of sex makes you “loose”

Toni: Our bodies are AMAZING! They're also very resilient. With that being said, if you enjoy being penetrated in any way, trust that your body will not only snap back but will also have increased blood flow and those muscles will have had a wonderful workout. Think about your genitals like we do other parts of our body and work them out! Plus, using tools like kegel exercisers can also lead to stronger, more powerful orgasms!

Myth #5: Disabled people can’t (or don’t) have sex

Becca: Disabled people frequently encounter stereotypes that deny their sexuality and exclude them from discussions surrounding sex and intimacy. However, a large number of people with disabilities engage in masturbation, experience sexual attraction, and participate in sexual activities. Disability activists argue that society's refusal to acknowledge the sexuality of disabled individuals constitutes a type of dehumanization.

People with disabilities can enjoy sexual activities with and without the use of sexual aids. Those who choose to use sexual aids may implement positioning aids, hands-free toys, strap-ons, and more during intimacy.