Pleasure Resources

Anal Pleasure

C.L.A.S.P. Method

We developed an easy, pleasure-filled, 5-step program for an optimal anal experience using the acronym "CLASP."

Clean: Fill an anal enema with lukewarm water and gently insert the tip into the rectum. Squeeze the bulb of the enema so the water slowly comes out.  Then use the bathroom as you normally would. The warm water will relax the muscles and clean out the rectum to minimize mess.

Lube: Lube a lot! Choose your favorite anal lube and apply to yourself and whatever toys you will be using. The more lube the better as the anus does not produce enough lubricant of its own. Also, the thicker the lube, the less friction, and the more comfortable the next few steps will be. Water based anal lube generally works best as they are toy-safe. Hybrid lubes (part water part silicone) also work well with most toys, and they tend to be thicker. Just make sure to test the lube on a non-insertable part of the toy, as some hybrid lubricants will still react negatively with some toys. Make sure to add more lube whenever you feel the need and each time you advance through steps 3, 4, and 5.

Arouse: Use fingers, beads, or a vibrating anal toy (with a flared base) to tease and tantalize the anal opening. This will further relax the muscles and make later penetration easier. If with a partner, have them watch you play with yourself, or have them stimulate you with their fingers. Take it slow and draw it out. This can be one of the most fun steps.

Stretch: Use fingers and toys to stretch the anus. How far you stretch will depend on how large your partner is, or how big your final toy is. Make sure any toy you are using has a flange (flared base). The anus likes to suck in anything without one, and this can lead to an embarrassing hospital visit. Anal training kits are also a great way to gradually stretch the anus. Slowly insert each progressive toy, switching to the next biggest toy when comfortable.

Penetrate: Once you have comfortably stretched the anus, you are ready to have penetrative anal sex. If self-pleasuring, add more lube to yourself and slowly insert your toy of choice. Do not go too fast right away. Build up to it. If having sex with a partner, apply the lube to their body. Have your partner kneel behind you (backed up against a wall if you want, so they cannot unexpectedly thrust) and slowly back into them. Make sure that at first you are dictating how deep and fast the thrusting goes. Slowly build up speed until you’re comfortable, then have fun!

Prostate Play

If you are a prostate owner, use that to your advantage by trying out a small prostate toy. Insert it and wiggle the toy back and forth to stimulate the prostate. For some, this can lead to a whole new type of orgasm! Prostate play is also very good for you as there is evidence it prevents prostate cancer.

Anal Tips

We recommend using a condom during anal sex. While anal sex will not get anyone pregnant, it is still possible to share sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Condoms also make for easy clean up and you can even use them on your toys for the same reason. It is very important to note that alcohol and anal do not mix. A beer or a glass of wine before intercourse is fine to relax and loosen up, but when intoxicated, the brain is not fully functioning and you could wind up injuring yourself or your partner. If it’s difficult to relax, it could be a sign that you are not completely ready to try anal. No one should ever be pressured into anal sex if they are not ready.

We very highly recommend using silicone toys for any type as anal play as silicone is a nonporous material and does not hold on to bacteria as long as the surface is cleaned. Silicone toys, while more expensive, are ideal for anal play and can be kept up to 10 years if taken care of. You can also use glass or metal as material alternatives, and they bring in a whole new texture. As a bonus, these toys can be safely used with silicone lubricants, unlike silicone toys.

Misconceptions

“Anal sex is painful.”

Anal is meant to be painless, if done correctly. This involves following a set of five steps (clean, lube, arouse, stretch, penetrate) and taking each step slowly. Getting to full penetrative anal sex takes time, but that time does not need to be seen as boring or tedious. With a little creativity, the preparation can be great foreplay!

“Anal sex is messy."

The first step to a good anal experience is to clean, and this gets rid of almost all potential messes. Even then, messes can happen during anal sex, but they are not as bad as you may think. Try to be mature about it, clean up any mess that does happen, and move on. There is no need to be embarrassed. Anal queefing can also happen, but this is completely normal. It’s just from air being pushed in during penetration.

“Anal sex permanently stretches you out."

One of the most important steps of anal is stretching the anus to accommodate a partner or toy, but this is definitely not permanent. The anus is very elastic, and will revert to its tight state quite quickly after sex, so there is no need to worry about permanent damage from anal play.

Cock Rings

Benefits

• • • Prolong erections
    • Adds stimulation for yourself or a partner
    • Increase sensation
    • Delay ejaculation
    • Add texture to penetration

Who Should Try a C-Ring?

• • • People with ED
    • People who deal with premature ejaculation
    • People who like perennial (taint) stimulation
    • People who want to provide clitoral stimulation to a partner
    • People who want prostate stimulation without penetration
      

How to Wear

• • • Shaft only: Offers a tighter hold on the main vein in the penis and allows for a harder erection.
    • Shaft and testes: Safer and more comfortable than other styles.
    • Shaft and testes (double ring): When using a vibrating ring with an extra ring for the testes, it prevents the vibrator from rotating.
    • C-sling: These go around the shaft and testes and have an extension that goes back behind the testes to stimulate the perineum.
    • Testes only: Called a “ball stretcher” these add more stimulation for the wearer.
    • Base of the head: Mostly ornamental, but some can add stimulation to the glans.

To find out what size ring to wear, take a string and measure around whatever area you want to wear the ring. Take the measurement and divide by three. This is the size ring you should get. For example, if you measured six inches around your shaft and testes, you would look for a 2 inch ring (rings are sized in diameter).
If you are planning on wearing a metal ring, measure while you are already wearing a silicone ring to make sure you are at your most erect. 

Do not wear any ring for more than 20-30 minutes as the lack of blood flow can cause capillary damage and increase erectile difficulties.

Cock Ring Materials

• • • Jelly: Sometimes bumpy, this transparent material is super stretchy and does not hold as well as other materials. They also have to be replaced more frequently.
    • Rubber: Firmer than jelly, this material should be avoided by those with latex allergies.
    • Silicone: Firmer than jelly, but still has a good stretch. This material is easy to put on and still maintains erections well. Vibrating rings are frequently made with this material. Does not need to be replaced often.
    • Metal: The most unforgiving material. Be careful that you find your exact size before putting one on. They can get stuck if you do not wear the exact size.

These are the most common materials, but there are many others. Some less common materials include neoprene and leather.

The ideal shape for maintaining an erection safely is a flat ring. The wider surface area makes the ring more comfortable and more effective in restricting blood flow.

Extra Help

More products you can pair with cock rings:

• • • Pumps: Pumps help you get an erection by pulling blood into an erection and can use air or water. While they can be more expensive, the water pumps use a more even pressure and are safer. You then pair them with a ring to maintain the erection.
    • Creams and Sprays: Delay creams and sprays are used to partially numb the penis to delay ejaculation. They commonly use the stronger lidocaine or the weaker benzocaine. Creams take longer to work into the skin, but last longer than spray. Make sure if you are using either to wait 5-7 minutes before sexual activity or you will also numb your partner.
    • Edging: This is a term used to describe masturbating just to the point of climax, then stopping yourself before stopping stimulation. This can be used to train yourself to last longer in bed.
    • Kegels: These exercises work the muscles of the pelvic floor. To find these muscles, imagine you are trying to stop yourself from peeing and “flex” your penis. Kegels have a plethora of benefits, including increased stamina, size, stronger orgasms, and a healthy prostate. Do not over do it though because it can cause the penis to develop an upwards curve. 
      

G-Spot Pleasure

The rumors are true! The G-spot does exist. After years of speculation in the medical and sexual health community, a study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2012 has confirmed definitively what many have known all along; The g-spot does exist!

Dr. Adam Ostrzenski, MD, PhD, documented the g-spot in a woman and was able to determine the location and give a medical description of it! In addition to the g-spot existing, it is one of the best ways to experience ejaculation if you were born with a vagina.

This ejaculate, while similar to urine, is generally odorless, colorless, and tasteless. It originates from the Skene’s Gland (homologous to the prostate) and can make a small or large splash! It is rare though to have the gushing ejaculation like the movies. Most of the time the only sign of ejaculation is a sudden wetness everywhere. If your goal in stimulating the g-spot is ejaculation, make sure you are well hydrated. Also, take your time to warm up with foreplay. Experiment with different toys, fingers, and positions. Variety is the spice of sex after all. 

What is the G-Spot?

The g-spot is more of a g-zone, and pleasure comes from a few different places. The first is the paraurethral gland which is a small gland located about 1 to 3 inches inside the vagina on the belly-button side of the body. The legs of the clitoris also account for some of the sensory receptors around the g-zone. The legs stretch back into the body from the head of the clitoris and come very close to the g-spot. In all, the g-zone has about 6000 sensory receptors, almost as many as the clitoris!

To find the g-spot, insert a forefinger or middle finger into the vagina. Look for a spot about the size of a quarter that does not quite match the rest of the vaginal wall. It is easiest to find the g-spot when already aroused, as the area will become engorged due to increased blood-flow into erectile tissue.

Note: Not everyone likes g-spot stimulation. For some it can be uncomfortable or even painful. It is always important to try new thing, but if g-spot stimulation isn’t for you, that’s okay!

Stimulation

In general, the best way to stimulate the g-spot is to rock or wiggle as opposed to thrusting. You can stimulate it with fingers, a toy, or a partner. When using your fingers or a partner’s, make sure they are clean and that any sharp nails are filed down. If using a toy, try rocking it forwards and backwards while inserted. You can also try turning the toy from side-to-side.

When playing with a partner, try experimenting with different positions. Try having your partner on top, then carefully put your legs over their shoulders. This pulls the pelvis up and angles it for great g-spot stimulation. If you have problems keeping your legs in the air, you can try Sportsheet’s G-Spot Link. This takes the pressure off your legs and hips and allows you to maintain the position a lot longer! You a can also use a position pillow under your butt to give an even greater angle. 

G-Spot Toys

For a toy to be considered a g-spot toy it has to have a curve or bulge at the end. There are two main categories for g-spot toys:

The first is designed for those who do not necessarily know exactly where their g-spot is. They are large and bulbous and can lose some of their power due to having such a large surface area. There are some versions of this more bulbous toy who have enough power in their motor that they do not have to worry about losing stimulation. For example, the We-Vibe Rave 2.

The second design is for those who know exactly where to find their g-spot. It is a more angular toy with a small, pinpoint end, like the Evolved Sweet Spot. The small end makes the stimulation very intense.